ROY ANTHONY B. MENDOZA 11222009Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Friday, June 19, 2009
8 Tips for liking someone better or liking someone less
Eight tips for liking someone better (or disliking that person less).
Some people are part of your life, whether you want them there or not. What if you don’t have the warmest of feelings for your boss? Your mother-in-law? Your next-door neighbor?
It’s easy to come up with a mental catalog of all the ways in which that person could change to be less annoying, domineering, passive-aggressive, arrogant, etc.—but the fact is, you can’t change anyone but yourself.
Here are some tips about how to help yourself cultivate more friendly feelings. It’s quite a strain to hide feelings of dislike; if you can manage to change your feelings, you’ll be much happier. It’s hard, but not impossible.
1. Seek contact. This is a bit counter-intuitive. If you don't like someone, you probably feel like avoiding that person, but because of the psychological phenomenon known as the mere exposure effect, we tend to like people better the more we see them.
2. Do nice things for that person. “We prefer to see those to whom we do good than those who do good to us,” as La Rochefoucauld observed.
3. Give that person a brief touch. Subliminal touching, i.e., touching a person so unobtrusively that it’s not noticed, increases people’s sense of well-being and positive feelings.
4. Lighten up. Joke about whatever annoys you, and if you can manage it, laugh about it with that person, or poke fun at your own reaction. Nothing neutralizes bad feelings like a good laugh. This can be tough, however.
5. Act friendly. We think we act because of the way we feel, but often we feel because of the way we act. So act the way you want to feel. This is uncannily effective—just try it.
6. Resist criticizing that person. When you voice your complaints, they assume a solidity in your mind that’s hard to eliminate. When your thoughts remain unspoken, they can more easily be changed.
7. Remember happy shared experiences. Recalling good times elevates mood and will help warm your feelings.
8. Be grateful. Reflecting on reasons to feel grateful, instead of reasons to be angry or annoyed, will help change your view.* Interested in starting your own happiness project? If you’d like to take a look at my personal Resolutions Chart, for inspiration, just email me at grubin, then the “at” sign, then gretchenrubin dot com. (Sorry about writing it in that roundabout way; I’m trying to thwart spammers.) Just write “Resolutions Chart” in the subject line.
Some people are part of your life, whether you want them there or not. What if you don’t have the warmest of feelings for your boss? Your mother-in-law? Your next-door neighbor?
It’s easy to come up with a mental catalog of all the ways in which that person could change to be less annoying, domineering, passive-aggressive, arrogant, etc.—but the fact is, you can’t change anyone but yourself.
Here are some tips about how to help yourself cultivate more friendly feelings. It’s quite a strain to hide feelings of dislike; if you can manage to change your feelings, you’ll be much happier. It’s hard, but not impossible.
1. Seek contact. This is a bit counter-intuitive. If you don't like someone, you probably feel like avoiding that person, but because of the psychological phenomenon known as the mere exposure effect, we tend to like people better the more we see them.
2. Do nice things for that person. “We prefer to see those to whom we do good than those who do good to us,” as La Rochefoucauld observed.
3. Give that person a brief touch. Subliminal touching, i.e., touching a person so unobtrusively that it’s not noticed, increases people’s sense of well-being and positive feelings.
4. Lighten up. Joke about whatever annoys you, and if you can manage it, laugh about it with that person, or poke fun at your own reaction. Nothing neutralizes bad feelings like a good laugh. This can be tough, however.
5. Act friendly. We think we act because of the way we feel, but often we feel because of the way we act. So act the way you want to feel. This is uncannily effective—just try it.
6. Resist criticizing that person. When you voice your complaints, they assume a solidity in your mind that’s hard to eliminate. When your thoughts remain unspoken, they can more easily be changed.
7. Remember happy shared experiences. Recalling good times elevates mood and will help warm your feelings.
8. Be grateful. Reflecting on reasons to feel grateful, instead of reasons to be angry or annoyed, will help change your view.* Interested in starting your own happiness project? If you’d like to take a look at my personal Resolutions Chart, for inspiration, just email me at grubin, then the “at” sign, then gretchenrubin dot com. (Sorry about writing it in that roundabout way; I’m trying to thwart spammers.) Just write “Resolutions Chart” in the subject line.
Monday, June 8, 2009
Video phone
Uh uhhhThem hustlas keep on talkin'Uh uhhhThe like the way I'm walkingUh uhhhYou saying that you want B?So press record and let you film meOn your Video PhoneMake a cameoTape me on your video phoneI can handle youWatch me on your video phoneOn your video, videoIf you want me you can watch me on your video phoneI love how you approach meFresh white, with your pants hangin' grown-man lowEverything you sayin' soundin' good to meNo need to convince me anymoreSwag up, its brightOne blade, its tightAnd I smell your cologne in the airBaby, you doin' something rightYou just cancelled every other man hereYou say you like my bag and the color of my nailsYou can see that I got it goin' onI wanna make sure you remember meSo I'ma leave my number on your video phoneUh uhhhI got no time for frontin'Uh uhhhI know just what I'm wantinUh uhhhIf its gonna be you and me?When I call they better see me on your video screenUh uhhhThem hustlas keep on talkin'Uh uhhhThe like the way I'm walkingUh uhhhYou saying that you want B?So press record and let you film meOn your video phoneMake a cameoTape me on your video phoneI can handle youWatch me on your video phoneOn your video, videoIf you want me you can watch me on your video phoneYou a cutieYou should let me put you in my moviesDo shoot into a star of your own hit song[ Video Phone lyrics from http://www.lyricsyoulove.com/ ]We can shoot the video right here on my cellphoneI never seen a smile so prettyI need to know I'll always have you wit' meSo take your picture on my video phoneYou can pick your own songAnd you could be the only one....I know you like thatTurn you into a star? I got it like thatLike that, baby don't fight itCause when I miss your call I hit you right backOn my video phoneUh uhhhThem hustlas keep on talkin'Uh uhhhThe like the way I'm walkingUh uhhhYou saying that you want B?So press record and let you film meOn your video phoneMake a cameoTape me on your video phoneI can handle youWatch me on your video phoneOn your video, videoIf you want me you can watch me on your video phoneYou know them G's they be hollerin''Specially them hot onesBrooklyn, Atlanta, Houston to New OrleansWhen they see me they be like, "Yo, B, let me call you!"You breakin' my focus, boyYou cute and you ballin'You like it when I shake it?Shawty on a mission, what yo name is?What? You want me naked?If you liking this position you can tape itOn your video phoneUh uhhhHustla keep on talkin'Uh uhhhYou like the way its popping?Uh uhhhYou saying that you want B?Press record, baby film meOn your video phoneMake a cameoTape me on your video phoneI can handle youWatch me on your video phoneOn your video, videoIf you want me you can watch me on your video phone
Monday, June 1, 2009
Sunday, May 24, 2009
LOVE BUG
Called her for the first time yesterday
Finally found the missing part of me Felt so close but you were far away
Left me without anything to say
(CHORUS)
Now I'm speechless, over the edge,
I'm just breathless
I never thought that I'd catch this love bug again
Hopeless, head over heels in the moment
I never thought that I'd get hit by this love bug again
I can't get your smile out of my mind [I can't get you out of my mind]
I think about your eyes all the time
You're beautiful but you don't even try (You don't even, don't even try)
Modesty is just so hard to find
(CHORUS) Now I'm speechless, over the edge,
I'm just breathless
I never thought that I'd catch this love bug again
Hopeless, head over heels in the moment
I never thought that I'd get hit by this love bug again
Kissed her for the first time yesterday
Everything I wished that it would be
Suddenly I forgot how to speak
Hopeless, breathless, baby can't you see?
Now I'm...
YEAH, OHHH
Now I'm speechless, over the edge of this,
breathless I never thought that I'd catch this love bug again
Hopeless, head over heels in the moment
I never thought that I'd get hit by this love bug again [ohhhhh]
Love Bug again [woo!]
Finally found the missing part of me Felt so close but you were far away
Left me without anything to say
(CHORUS)
Now I'm speechless, over the edge,
I'm just breathless
I never thought that I'd catch this love bug again
Hopeless, head over heels in the moment
I never thought that I'd get hit by this love bug again
I can't get your smile out of my mind [I can't get you out of my mind]
I think about your eyes all the time
You're beautiful but you don't even try (You don't even, don't even try)
Modesty is just so hard to find
(CHORUS) Now I'm speechless, over the edge,
I'm just breathless
I never thought that I'd catch this love bug again
Hopeless, head over heels in the moment
I never thought that I'd get hit by this love bug again
Kissed her for the first time yesterday
Everything I wished that it would be
Suddenly I forgot how to speak
Hopeless, breathless, baby can't you see?
Now I'm...
YEAH, OHHH
Now I'm speechless, over the edge of this,
breathless I never thought that I'd catch this love bug again
Hopeless, head over heels in the moment
I never thought that I'd get hit by this love bug again [ohhhhh]
Love Bug again [woo!]
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
5 Easy ways to make a man smile
#1: Touch His Arm
There are a lot of ways to subtly let a guy know you're into him, like maintaining eye contact, playing with your hair, and smiling a lot. But the only one that sends shivers down my spine is when a girl touches my arm during conversation. It always surprises me, and it's always great.
#2: Send Him a Random Text Message in Midday.
OK, this might not be free depending on your cell phone plan, but it's still a great value. Nothing breaks the monotony of a long workday like a flirty note from someone special, and unless his job is super-intense he'll have plenty of time to daydream about you.
#3: Ask Him a Question About Something He Knows a Lot About
Dating news flash: Guys like to show off for you. So if your dude could use an ego boost, there's nothing like letting him feel like an expert. Ask him about fishing, the 1983 Chicago White Sox, or the mating habits of the Guyanese Bullfinches -- whatever he's into. Just remember to nod frequently and look really interested.
#4: Give Him a Very Specific Compliment
Telling a guy he's funny, handsome, or smart is always appreciated, but the really
meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him.
meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him. Something like "I love the way your face scrunches up when you're doing the crossword puzzle" or "You have the most manly calves I've ever seen."
#5: Send Him the Diary Entry You Wrote After Your First Date -- or Write One Now
One of the best things about having a girlfriend is reminiscing about what you thought about each other in the beginning of your relationship. Reliving all of the uncertainty and anxiety is strangely exhilarating. I can't think of a better anniversary present than a sanctioned peek into the documented thoughts of someone I care about.
There are a lot of ways to subtly let a guy know you're into him, like maintaining eye contact, playing with your hair, and smiling a lot. But the only one that sends shivers down my spine is when a girl touches my arm during conversation. It always surprises me, and it's always great.
#2: Send Him a Random Text Message in Midday.
OK, this might not be free depending on your cell phone plan, but it's still a great value. Nothing breaks the monotony of a long workday like a flirty note from someone special, and unless his job is super-intense he'll have plenty of time to daydream about you.
#3: Ask Him a Question About Something He Knows a Lot About
Dating news flash: Guys like to show off for you. So if your dude could use an ego boost, there's nothing like letting him feel like an expert. Ask him about fishing, the 1983 Chicago White Sox, or the mating habits of the Guyanese Bullfinches -- whatever he's into. Just remember to nod frequently and look really interested.
#4: Give Him a Very Specific Compliment
Telling a guy he's funny, handsome, or smart is always appreciated, but the really
meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him.
meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him. Something like "I love the way your face scrunches up when you're doing the crossword puzzle" or "You have the most manly calves I've ever seen."
#5: Send Him the Diary Entry You Wrote After Your First Date -- or Write One Now
One of the best things about having a girlfriend is reminiscing about what you thought about each other in the beginning of your relationship. Reliving all of the uncertainty and anxiety is strangely exhilarating. I can't think of a better anniversary present than a sanctioned peek into the documented thoughts of someone I care about.
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