Love Over Lust

Today we live in a society of instant gratification. In some instances it is really not so bad. However, if we understood our surroundings a little better we might take a little more time and be more patient so we could really enjoy the final product.

For example, we don't go to college for the instant satisfaction of passing a single class or getting an A on our most recent test. We want our degrees to live out the dreams we have had since we were kids. Or maybe we just want the high salary so we can "live large."

This kind of patience should be thought about in more aspects of our lives, particularly, our relationships.

In college it's almost expected of us to go to parties to meet people. Many students spend short times with each other and ultimately have sex together. There are tons of people who meet under these circumstances. More often than not, the sex is terrible and you're never going to see that person ever again.

The fact of the matter is people who have healthy long-term relationships have the best sex, hands down. There is no question that people who work hard on their relationships and take the time to communicate and understand each other have much more to offer each other in and out of bed.

There are a lot of things involved in relationships that people in college are just not willing to do. The odd thing about college students is that a good chunk of us view being in a relationship as settling down, which is a big thing most young adults want to steer clear of.

Communication becomes a big issue in young relationships because some of us are not quite sure how to express our feelings. On the other hand, some of us just refuse to open up, especially when the relationship is viewed as temporary. Finally, there seems to be a strong tendency to just run when things get tough.

Being in a relationship does not necessarily mean that any individual is settling down. In fact, those in relationships tend to spice things up even more. This happens when the couple has a strong sense of mutual trust, understanding, and feelings of wanting to please each other.

Naturally there is no such thing as a conflict-free relationship. It is just unrealistic. As anyone who has been in a long relationship for a few years will tell you, overcoming a fight or conflict together only makes your bond stronger.

I suppose for those who are interested, getting closer with your partner will make the sex that you two share a whole lot better. Especially when you get to know your partner's likes and dislikes.

As a couple gets closer, they also share and fulfill different sorts of kinks that their partners have, possibly making all of your wildest dreams come true.